17: What's the Problem?

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You didn't come here to simply survive. You came here to thrive. To reconnect and to remember who you truly are. Welcome to the Return to Her podcast, where we uncover the knowledge that empowers us and discover the wisdom that's always been inside! Here, we blend spiritual insights modern psychology, and embodied wellness practices to help us realign all aspects of our being, body, mind, and soul. This is where science meets spirituality and true wellness becomes our way of life. I'm Cassie Dalton, yoga teacher, energy worker, holistic coach, and intuitive guide. While I'm still walking my own wellness and spiritual path, my mission now is to walk beside you as you return home to your most authentic and empowered self. Now is the time to return to her. The content shared in this podcast is for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a qualified professional for any personal health or wellness concerns. Now let's dive in to today's episode. Hello everybody, and happy whatever day of the week this is that you are listening. I recorded a quick episode for this week while I was in my car. Waiting to pick up my children because last week I was out of town. I went to Miami Beach with my husband, and it was really great, but I didn't have any of my stuff with me to record an episode. And then when we got home, my plan was I was gonna, I was gonna knock out one of my episodes that I had scripted that I really wanted to do, and then I. Didn't do it. Um, my daughter's 13th birthday was this weekend, and we spent all day Saturday with a couple of her friends. We took her to a trampoline, an indoor trampoline park that had a ropes course and a zip line, things like that. Then we went to the bookstore and got ice cream on the way home, and it was really great. But by the time that day ended, I was completely wiped out. My social battery was drained, and then the next day got up and cleaned up the house and had family over to celebrate my daughter. And after everyone left, once again, social battery had expired. So I was not in. The head space to record any of my episodes that I had planned to share with you guys. So, um, just because I wanted to get something out to make sure I had something for you guys to listen to. I was in the car and fortunately I still had a little battery left after teaching my classes today. So I was able to record some thoughts that I had that were coming through and I. Hope that it's something that serves you well and I can't wait to hear any feedback that you guys have. Please share with me any thoughts on this episode or, any of the other episodes. Really, I can't wait to see you all again next week. No mistake. What if there is nothing wrong? What if there's nothing about you that needs to be fixed? Just sit with that thought for a moment. There's nothing that's wrong. There's nothing you need to fix about yourself. There's nothing that is broken. Because you already are, always have been, always will be whole. So then your health and wellness journey, your spiritual journey, that's no longer looking for things that you need to improve, looking for things that you need to change or fix about yourself, it simply becomes. Accepting what is accepting your wholeness, accepting the fact that you are already everything that you need, and then instead of seeking to find solutions to your quote unquote problems, just learning how to support yourself better, learning how to. Be a better friend to your body, a better friend for your mind, for your soul. Learning how to connect with yourself in those ways and support those aspects of yourself, not because there's anything wrong or that needs to be changed or adjusted, but simply because you love yourself so much that you simply don't tolerate things that harm you anymore. And don't get me wrong, I have my own challenges for sure. Like it's easy to look at somebody else and say, well, okay, it's so easy for her to say that, but she doesn't know about this. She doesn't know about this problem I have, or this problem or this problem. She doesn't know about my cholesterol or my diabetes, or you know, whatever it is. And guess what? I have my own shit that I'm dealing with too. I have my own triggers. I have my own relationship woes. I have my own health challenges And it's, it's okay. It's not a problem. None of that is a problem. It's simply an opportunity for me to learn more about myself and for me to figure out how to support myself better, how to support this body better so that it lasts a little bit better, a little bit longer, with better quality of life through my soul's journey in this soul cycle. It's not about living forever, it's about. Living as well as I can for as long as I can while I'm here to do the work that God put me on this earth to do. So again, the challenges that I'm having, guess what? God gave them to me for a reason. It's not that I'm supposed to be in some way special, and you're in some way special and either God looks down on you kindly and gives you no challenges whatsoever. Or God punishes you for something and gives you different challenges. It's not like that at all. First of all, we are in these human bodies. We are going to have physical, mental, emotional challenges, relationship challenges. There will be times in our lives when we have financial challenges, whatever that looks like for you. However that manifests, and that's not a bad thing. It is by design. If we went through and skated through life with absolutely nothing. To either present itself as an obstacle or something that we had to learn from, to grow from, we would never grow. We would never expand. We would never become what we came here to become and learn how to do For others what we came here to do. For others, we would simply stagnate. So challenges aren't a problem. Relationship struggles. Even though when you're in the midst of it, it feels terrible. Trust me, I understand this. It's still not a problem. It is part of your soul's journey. It's part of your soul's evolution, and I dare say that it could very well be part of your soul's contract that it made with other souls before you even got here to experience these different relationship dynamics for certain reasons so that you could understand what it meant. To love yourself, to honor yourself, to treat yourself the way that you deserve to be treated, to not abandon yourself. We're here to learn these lessons and our soul uses the situations and the people around us to help us learn and grow. So there is no problem. There is nothing wrong. I know my teacher one time I asked him about, there's something happening. There's, I, I'm not, yeah, I remember what it was. There was a Haman statue being installed in his, um, in the, in the temple that they are guardians of, and. As it was being installed, and we all love Hanman. He's just the best. He is just pure love and faith and devotion. If you look at the stories of Hanman. Uh, in Hindu, in Hindu tradition. But, um, as Hanman was being installed or being lifted up and, and getting ready to, to be moved, I asked him, are you happy? And he just looked at me like dumbfounded, like, I'm always happy I. Like this doesn't make me any happier than anything else, even though that was a huge deal to have a statue of Hahnemann now to care for, um, a a and according to the tradition that they're in, that was a huge deal and that would've made me so happy. But the point is, nothing can make you happy and nothing can make you unhappy unless you give it the power to. So his answer, I'm always happy. Was really significant in that way. And for me, it, it made me wanna roll my eyes. I can't remember if I rolled my eyes in real life or not. I, uh, I just remember like, golly, what a like, cliche answer. But the more I thought about that, it's like, okay, yeah, he's always happy because he is his own locus of control. He. He doesn't go up and down. He maintains what they call STI prota, that steadiness, that equanimity, that no matter what comes to you, what comes in front of you, what you go through, it doesn't have the power to lift you up or bring you down because you have that power within yourself based on how you respond to it and based on whether or not. You are attaching something to it, whether you're attaching any sort of outcome or expectation or desire onto it. That's what makes us happy or unhappy. It's not the things. It's not the people. It is our attachment to those things, those people, and our expectations of how they should be or how we would like them to be. That's what I mean by attachment. We're attaching to how we would prefer them to be based on our own likes and dislikes. That's what makes us happy or unhappy. No matter what's going on in your life, it's an opportunity to check in with yourself. Are you allowing this thing, this person, this situation to control how you feel or. Are you always going to maintain how you feel despite what's going on within you and around you? So to get back to my initial point, you are not broken. You are not damaged, you're not needing to be fixed. You already are, okay? You already are more than okay. You're exactly where you are in your journey by design for a reason, because the choices that you've made up to this point, you, you have free will, but your soul, God also puts decisions in front of you and puts obstacles in front of you to give you opportunities to learn the lessons. That you're here to learn to overcome the challenges that you're here to overcome and grow from. And when we don't learn those lessons and when we don't grow from those challenges, that's okay. God will always give you another opportunity. So even if you're in the midst of something, that to you is really challenging, I'm not trying to discredit that. And like I said, I have my own things that I'm dealing with, so I, I understand. How, what I'm saying might feel.'cause if I heard this a few years ago, someone saying these things, I again would probably roll my eyes and be like, yeah, but you don't understand what's going on in my life. You don't know what's going on with me. However, now there's a different understanding, a different awareness that's come in. At least for me to say that, you know, whatever's happening is okay. It is going to be okay. All manner of things will be okay because I'm already whole and I already have everything I need. I just now have the opportunity to learn more, to support myself, to learn more, how to take care of this human body that we've been given to learn more how to support my mind. To learn more how to maintain that ragus so my emotions don't throw me all around. Sure. I still experience emotions, but they don't get to determine how I feel. They might come in and then I let them move through, but they don't determine my happiness, my peace, my bliss, my love. They don't affect that. They don't get to do that. No one, no thing within or without. Has the power to affect me unless I give it the power to affect me. So instead, my spiritual journey and my health and wellness journey are now all about just becoming my own best friend. What can I do to support myself better when I make a mistake? When I eat the ice cream cake that I know causes blood sugar spikes, which I know increases my triglycerides and. It gets stored in different places in my body as cholesterol and as fat. When I do these things, I'm not mad at myself for doing them. I just understand. All right. Well, yeah. So this addiction to sugar is still there. Um, there's still stuff going on there that I can learn from when these things happen now, I'm not mad. It's just, okay, well what can I do to support myself a little bit better, a little bit differently so that my quality of life is better in this physical body? Because we are in these human bodies, we have to take care of them. If we're going to do our soul's work is not that we're supposed to come here and only focus on the soul and ignore the fact that we are in a human body in a physical creation. We're supposed to learn from the human body, the mind, the emotions, the physical creation that we find ourself in and grow from that and develop and not become attached to it, though, like the priority is still on the development of the soul, but we use these things to develop the soul further and become even more connected to God through this perspective. Of this physical existence and this physical creation. So there is no problem. You don't have any problems. The only problem if you do have one is thinking that you have a problem. That's the only thing perhaps that needs to be shifted or changed or fixed, quote unquote fixed. And even if that is still the case for you, it's part of your journey. So even that's not a problem. All right. Well, I'm sitting in the pickup line of my kids' school getting ready to pick them up and see their smiling faces, and I just wanted to hop on and share that quick message. I hope that it means something for you. I don't know. That was just what wanted to come through and I don't know how, how it is coming out, how you're receiving it. Maybe there's something there for someone who's listening and if not. we'll see what happens next week. Maybe it'll be something that I have time to sit down and prepare ahead of time. Maybe it'll be another spontaneous episode, who knows? But I wish you well, and I'll see you next time when we return to her.

Cassie Dalton 17:22

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